Overcoming the life-changing and debilitating challenges of disability and unavoidable new circumstances can paralyze the soul. Your new set of circumstances, now enduring, can cause some unexpected challenges for a lifetime.



One of the hardest things to witness that often accompanies debilitating fear is seeing a person who has simply given up. They have stopped fighting and have stopped moving on. There is no visible sign of action or intention to improve their situation. Things always get worse when you give up. Choosing that path is not the answer. As difficult as it may be, never give up! Never give up!


What a terrible thing it must be to lose control of your attitude and give up. You need the ability to control your attitude.

FAITH and FEAR cannot coexist.

If you can learn to adapt to your challenges by focusing on what you can control in life, your attitude and actions will improve. Your grieving history may seem unfair. However, you should always fight to prevent “unfair” thoughts of “why me” from taking over and weighing you down.

Your debilitating disability or new set of circumstances, now enduring, even if permanent, can cause a lifelong paralysis of certain normal functions or some unexpected lifelong challenges. Your situation may have started at birth or you may have survived a life-threatening event. Even if your actions are the cause of your enduring circumstance, there may be hope. Your actions may have caused a change in direction in your lifelong dreams. Whatever the cause you are here, you have survived, although here you are not completely unscathed. How can I get the most out of my situation should be the most important question and goal on your lifetime journey?

Paraphrasing from Brandon Sulser’s book “We are all paralyzed.” Perhaps you can pause and listen to a familiar tune sung by the artists, Sting, singing “Asleep on the ocean floor, adrift on empty seas. For all my remaining days.” Then you may have heard the words in your mind: “Dark angels follow me over an ungodly sea” … “Mountains of endless fall. For all my remaining days.” Even the title of this song “Why should I cry for you?” It can echo thoughts that you have often pondered and sometimes vocalized to yourself, even before God. Realizing the permanence of your condition, the following questions may have resonated in your mind more than once: Why am I here? Why is it a difficulty that I cannot overcome on my own? Why do I have to suffer so much? Does my load seem too difficult to carry alone? Is my battle too tough, too? Can I turn to God for inspiration? Will God give me the strength to carry my personal cross?

You may have pondered all of the above questions and hopefully prayed for three more: “God, if it’s not part of Your plan to remove my proof, somehow, could you strengthen me? God, will you heal my wounded soul with hope? bless me with strength beyond what I have so that I can endure and make the best of the trials to come. ” Controlling one’s attitude is always a challenge, as it will be for you, but you can do it.

So the above has been your cycle of thinking, meditating, and praying. A common misconception that many have, particularly among Christians, is that faith, being good enough, praying enough, could entitle you to blessings, even miracles. All the things we want to happen must be combined with God’s will for us. During this excruciating period of heartache, helplessness, and sometimes hopelessness, don’t make the big mistake during this period of great trial. DO NOT BE AWAY FROM GOD IN THE TIME YOU NEED IT MOST! Certainly, your circumstance will not be easier if you turn away from God. You need all the help you can get to navigate your difficult and unforeseen path.


Your challenges can be many, unforeseen, and ongoing. Today is the time to start climbing your mountains. Start overcoming your obstacles, here and now. You may never reach the top of all the mountains you try to climb. However, it has been my experience, the higher you go, your vision expands and the view is better, the higher you go.

“To some extent, a man’s life is determined by his environment, heredity, and movements and changes in the world around him. Then there comes a time when it is within his power to shape the clay of his life into the kind of thing you want to be.

Only the weak blame parents, race, age, lack of good fortune, or quirks of fate. Everyone has in his power to say: “This I am today; what will I be tomorrow ‘”

~ Louis L’Amour

By now you have noticed that the path of life that you walk, dream and plan on, continually adjust. The problems in life are abundant and not always what you had planned or dreamed would be your circumstance. Unexpected obstacles that are suddenly thrown in your path. Sometimes the detours are often extreme and unplanned. The grievance surrounds. The concern remains. However, if one’s attitude is controlled, happiness, hope and peace can coexist.


A caregiver comes in all tastes, husband, wife, grandfather, grandmother, father, mother, brother, sister or friend, and even carefully selected paid help. Willing caregivers are like beacons sharing beacons of light that provide service, hope, comfort, and security to the disadvantaged and afflicted. Let’s be completely honest. Everyone needs unconditional, assisted loving care. Caregivers are beacons for those who suffer physically and emotionally. They are a vital beacon for the bereaved, those who suffer, and those in need of help.

For grieving individuals with demanding painful circumstances, the best hope is that they will seek empowerment for themselves to reach their full potential through education, support, and determination. However, reconciling pain, healing, and needs can also be, and is often heavily assisted by, a caregiver. The harsh reality is that the need for a caregiver can continue or increase, not decrease. The caretakers are guardian angels who provide beacons of light and comfort.

“Because I was hungry, and you gave me something to eat; I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink; I was a stranger, and you welcomed me; naked, and you clothed me; I was ill, and you visited me. .. “~ Matthew 25: 35-36

You may experience shocking personal trials, adversity, and unexpected needs, beyond your self-reliance. You shouldn’t be without appreciation of the help a caregiver can give you. Its value for your personal healing and necessary help is indescribable. Time and effort offer healing aid, but serious needs for satisfaction, which you can’t always meet on your own, leave some lasting pain. Unexpected events can occur and cause major detours in your life.

Whenever I think of the role of the caregiver, I think of a comment from William Penn:

“I hope to go through life just once. If, therefore, there is any kindness that I can show, or any good that I can do for any other being, let me do it now, and not put it off or neglect it, as I will not. go down this road again. “

It may be impossible to express enough gratitude to and towards a loyal, trustworthy, and loving caregiver. Whenever possible, plan ahead for a willing and loving caregiver. Do your best to find someone who is willing to care for you. More than one caregiver may be needed in times of unexpected need.


Learning to harness your personal power is a must do. Also having personal blessings of peace, comfort, and guidance from a caring Supreme Being complements one’s personal power.

I take the liberty of expressing my deep conviction in God and expressing my deep and constant gratitude for my many personal blessings.

“ALL HUMAN BEINGS, male and female, are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spiritual son or daughter of heavenly parents and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny.”


I believe that we are all spirit children of a Supreme Being. You and I may not understand the trials we face. However, I believe that we are children of God who cares. My heart has been comforted by those things I believe in. My discouragement has been overcome and conquered by nurtured and harvested beliefs.

On occasion, you may notice that some were apparently born and die with a silver spoon in their mouth, and apparently face few complications. However, for some, it is “Woe to me!” while we ask the question: why these undeserved tests? Questions can swirl in your mind like empty plastic bags in a strong windstorm. As you go through life, you learn that trials and difficulties are common to humanity.

In my life I have received many blessings. Receiving blessings without acknowledging their origin is both naive and ungrateful. Hopefully, there will be many times in your life when you will silently applaud the blessings you receive and no one will notice your grateful and silent applause and no one will even hear your expressions of gratitude except you and the Lord who gave you. Blessings.

“Therefore, he gives you this promise, with an unchanging covenant that they will be fulfilled; and all the things for which you have been afflicted, will work together for your good and for the glory of my name, says the Lord.”

~ Doctrine and Covenants 98: 3

I firmly believe in a God who loves me, knows me by name, and watches over me through thick and thin. I testify that His Son lives and has provided an opportunity for my body to one day be resurrected in its perfect form; and that he has atoned for all my sufferings and my mistakes.

May you have hope.

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