If you are new to swinging, you may not be familiar with some of the different terms that you will come across, such as Soft Swinging or Hard Swinging (aka Full Swap). Let me help you let you know what the difference is so you don’t get caught off guard.
Smooth rocking
Most swingers start here and many stick with this type of swing. Smooth swing basically means anything goes except penetration with the other partner. Penetration is saved for your own partner.
So what fun can you have without penetration … a lot!
It’s basically a long session of foreplay (Ted and I call it Fourway Foreplay, but without the guys playing with each other) with lots of kissing, fondling, and lots of oral sex. Playing with Sex toys okay too, including penetration with sex toys. The only thing that is off limits is for one partner to penetrate the other partner.
Some people also call completely staying with their own Soft Swinging partner, but that’s actually a form of Couples Voyeurism, usually mentioned in Swinger Profiles, as we like to watch and be watched.
Another inaccurate use of the term Soft Swinging is when it refers to pairs where the ladies play exclusively or with very limited interaction. Actually, this is known as “Game for women only”.
In fact, we met a full swap couple who just weren’t sure what exactly they could do with a couple who just swapped softly, so we had to show them to them. Now this couple was thinking about getting out of the lifestyle because it seemed like it wasn’t for them, until they found out how much fun the smooth swing could be.
Hard swing or full swap
As the name implies, this form of swinging includes a full exchange or sexual relationship with the other partner. Some people never get to this point for reasons of their own, such as illness or intimacy issues, but many quite enjoy the full exchange.
It wouldn’t be me if I didn’t remind you right now that you should never have sex with another person without a condom, but I’m sure you’re smart enough to know. It’s just not worth the risk.
Both ways of balancing can be done in the same room (so that both pairs are together) or in separate rooms. Even when you enjoy the experience of a trio, you will have to decide whether to swing soft or swing hard. Everyone MUST agree too.
Do yourself a favor, too, and talk about this before things end in the bedroom (or whatever room they’re meeting in). There is nothing more uncomfortable than finding out that the person you are with, and trying to put a condom on, is not willing to have sex with you. This conversation is much easier to have in a non-sexual environment.
That’s all now get out there and have fun; just make sure both you and your partner are on the same page before picking up a cute couple.
~ Play safe, Ted and I always do